In this episode Mindset & Manifestation Coach, Efia Sulter shares her tried and true 5-step framework for aligned manifestation.
You will discover:
a helpful exercise for surrendering, even when it seems like things really aren't working out
the difference between attachment, detachment and not caring
why what you want doesn't manifest sometimes
how to embody the vibration of your higher self
why it's important to set powerful intentions
KEY NUGGETS:
[04:08] Creating an Extraordinary Life
[13:05] The 5 step Framework for Aligned Manifestation (The V.I.B.E.S method)
[24:10] Thoughts Becoming Reality
[32:16] Creating Balance Between Your Masculine and Feminine Energies.
[37:00] Secrets To Surrender
[50:28] Everything Always Works Out.
[52:03] Nuggets of Wisdom
About Efia Sulter
Efia is a Mindset & Manifestation Coach, NLP practitioner, and host of ‘The Manifest Edit Podcast’. Her mission is to empower and teach ambitious women how to stop playing small, confidently manifest their desires, and live an extraordinary life.
Serving as a practical example of her work after being orphaned at 14, grappling with mental illness and chronic pain to then moving overseas and building her soul-aligned life + business, Efia has inspired thousands around the world to create their lives by design.
Through her coaching and free virtual retreats Efia highlights the strategy, science, and spirituality behind manifestation in order to provide actionable advice from a grounded, no BS perspective.
How To Create An Extraordinary Life
At [04:08], Efia explains how creating that extraordinary life involves thinking about what we want from a personal standpoint. It's really about creating your own permission slip for the life you want to live.
How Efia Became a Manifestation Coach
After completing her first degree in Media, Efia went for her Masters but realized she had no interest in the field that she was studying. This prompted her to take some time off rather than go straight into a career. Sometimes we think our lives will be defined by a set of difficult circumstances we're facing but it’s that moment that transforms us if we can have an awareness to shift our reality.
Tune in at [06:01] for more on Efia’s story
The 5 step Framework for Aligned Manifestation (The V.I.B.E.S method)
When you approach Manifestation from the lens of what you want to have without first realizing who you want to be, that's where the disconnect happens.
That’s why the first step is "Embodying the vibe of your higher self" - know who you want to be and act in that way right now so that the external reality matches your truth. This also determines your goals and reaction to challenging situations.
The next step is 'Setting powerful intentions' - how can you move towards what you want and not just away from what you don't want?
The third step is 'Energetic blocks and boundaries' - this is where you deal with doubts and create the space to invest your time and energy in yourself.
Next is 'Balancing your feminine and masculine energy' - we all have both and it's about understanding your working styles to take inspired action.
The last step is 'Surrender' - you have to surrender to the process and trust yourself.
Go to [13:05] for more!
Thoughts Becoming Reality
At [24:10], Efia explains that a lot of people assume manifestation is just about wish thinking, but it is more than that. This is the process of taking action on the spiritual practices to move something that exists in your internal reality to something that exists in your external reality.
Creating Balance Between Your Masculine and Feminine Energies
You need to understand your physiology and the way you speak to yourself. This forms a baseline to help you read your emotions and take appropriate steps based on where your energy is at each time.
Manifestation is personal and has its impacts on an individual level
The goal is eventually to get to a place of an internal state of equilibrium - not because unpleasant things won't happen in your life but because this approach to your life will change.
Listen in at [32:16] for more insight on this.
Secrets to surrendering
At [37:00], Efia highlights that there is a difference between surrendering and not caring. Not caring is basically having indifference towards something with the belief that it makes no difference in your life.
Detachment involves caring about something but not being particular about when or how it happens, with the mindset that even if does not happen, that doesn't define you.
Attachment is deriving validation from something happening exactly the way you want it to happen; it comes with a needy energy around it. Attachment is not something we need to lean into.
Surrendering is about deepening trust. For anyone having difficulty with surrendering regarding an issue, find evidence before it happens; it helps to think back to other situations that have worked out in your life, especially the ones you did not expect to work out. Anything that gives fun and excitement is a high vibe that brings you into manifestation.
Everything Always Works Out
One of the lessons Efia has learned is that everything always works out. Rather than wait to see this in hindsight, knowing that it works out helps her to surrender and feel supported. Efia also shares she is surrendering to both the shadow and the light, enjoying her ability to express her emotions, which makes her powerful. More of this at [50:28],
RESOURCES:
Get a free 5-day virtual manifestation retreat on the V.I.B.E.S. method for aligned manifestation
“The Big Leap” by Gay Hendricks.
Connect with Efia:
Website: efiasulter.com
Instagram: @efiasulter
Efia’s Podcast: Manifest Edit Podcast
QUOTES:
"When it comes to creating our extraordinary visions, often we don't allow ourselves to dream as big as we truly would like" [04:15]
"There are things that we think we want and then there are the things that we truly want" [05:18]
“Manifestation to me was a way of not just dreaming about having more for myself but actually creating it" [12:56]
"We shouldn't be faking it until we make it, we should be embodying it" [14:25]
"Boundaries is about taking that radical responsibility at the same time as having compassion for yourself in the process" [17:10]
"So long as you’re waiting for people to validate you, the goal post is always going to be moved… always" [23:12]
"The perception that most people have is that 'I'll believe it when I see it' but we actually need to believe it and then see it" [44:48]
"We do all the practices, we take all the action, but also leave room for magic" - [46:35]
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