We’ve finally made it! After detouring with an episode on perfectionism (that’s well worth your time to listen btw), fellow life coach Olena Gisys is back for the third and final episode of this incidental mini series.
In this episode, we show you, for a second time, how to use your home to deal with your problems. Listening to it a second time will help you get a better hang of using it on yourself.
Olena coaches me this time. My problem is feeling like time is moving too fast.
What happens is that I plan to do way too much which usually leaves me feeling like there’s not enough time! Using the Living Space Tool, I was able to look at the problem without becoming completely overwhelmed.
Ready to try this on yourself too? Grab a journal and pen to follow along!
PS. We also offer up a couple of BONUS tools that you might like to try on.
Topic Summary:
- How to use your home to help you deal with your problems
- Veronica gets coached “there’s never enough time”
- Outcome of coaching: are you being too hard on yourself?
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Key Nuggets:
Living Space Tool:
People reveal themselves in everything they create, including their home. Your living space is a reflection of your inner life.
By taking a closer look at your home, you can actually use it to help access your problems…especially the sticky ones that are too hard to talk about. It helps you dust off corners of your mind and find the dusty thoughts that lurk underneath it.
When you become aware of what’s really going on then you can move out of the struggle and into a place where you can start making changes that will feel better (and therefore make you happier)
Veronica’s Challenge:
Using the tool, I pinpointed that what I disliked the most about my home was the general disorganized and dirty feel of it. The words that I used to describe it were:
Unkept
Neglected
and Unbecoming
It was a surprise that the word “neglected” came up because I definitely take time and care to make the house a home. Nonetheless, that’s how my home felt like to me at the time.
At first, I thought it had something to do with my time management - I over plan a lot and usually end up feeling like as if I have no time. As Olena coached me further using a few other exercises, it came to light that there was an innocent and playful part of me that was being neglected.
The rest of the coaching was spent on digging further into this - being too hard on myself, needing more time for play, and ultimately a sense of stress that came from a place of fear.
Try this tool on yourself:
Look around your house and notice the room or area that you hate the most.
What are 3 adjectives that you would use to describe this space that you don’t like?
What other area of your life feel like these 3 words?
There you have it - you’ve identified the underlying root cause problem that’s been lurking beneath.
Links:
If you have any questions for Melanie or want to learn more, connect with her through:
Website: Superwoman.School
Email: Olena@Superwoman.School
Instagram: @olena.gisys